The Morning After… Starting Over, Again!

Good point in here. We all know someone who seems to ” have it all” but is absolutely miserable…I don’t think naming names is the answer, but ( Leona Helmsly ) but its not difficult to make a U-turn in our perspective, and reset our brains each morning.
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Heres Your Hope

We all have experienced a depressing first thought upon awaking…. probably related to something bad or sad having recently  happened. In part this is due to our human nature and our being hyper-focused on what is wrongin our lives, which sets us up for failure every time. Try starting each day by naming 5 things you are very gratefulfor. Do your children have a terminal disease? If not, be very grateful because no amount of success or money can fix that..

Instead of wanting to bury our heads in our pillows and forget it all, open your day by reminding yourself of how very good you have it. If you live in America for example, you have it better then 90%  of the world. Not too shabby , huh?  No matter our situation, it can always be worse.

 Focusing our thoughts on the good things in our lives helps.  It puts things in perspective…

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The Morning After… Starting Over, Again!

We all have experienced a depressing first thought upon awaking…. probably related to something bad or sad having recently  happened. In part this is due to our human nature and our being hyper-focused on what is wrong in our lives, which sets us up for failure every time. Try starting each day by naming 5 things you are very grateful for. Do your children have a terminal disease? If not, be very grateful because no amount of success or money can fix that..

Instead of wanting to bury our heads in our pillows and forget it all, open your day by reminding yourself of how very good you have it. If you live in America for example, you have it better then 90%  of the world. Not too shabby , huh?  No matter our situation, it can always be worse.

 Focusing our thoughts on the good things in our lives helps.  It puts things in perspective from the get go each day.  One thing that also worked for me was to have a “fun”  event on my calendar.  Several times, years ago, it was necessary for me to move, with my three children, to a different apartment or house.  A lot of hard work and not enough help.  Since this usually happened in late summer, before school resumed, I found that if I planned a day at one of our favorite lakes or at our church camp,  just thinking about it got me through the heavy work.  How wonderful it felt to be able to relax after the move.

Let me be clear, I am not saying or thinking that a simple solution like a day at the beach can get us through the heavier times.  Yet, just planning a day now or then when our issues and problems can be shelved for a time can help.  One day at a time helps us survive, but there will always be tough times when we wake up on a sad note.

Make sure you beat that old human nature to the punch, and start each day being thankful the good things in your life!  That part is simply a matter of discipline, retraining our brains to think accurately. It will amaze you how much differently you will see your circumstances if you commit to doing this. It may take a month before it comes naturally..

It will be the best investment you can make in your life if you allow it to be.

DM

Patrick’s Unconditional Love

               A young boy was kidnapped from his bedroom while his parents slept nearby.  For several years, he was forced to be a slave for mean men.  During this time, he was cold and lonesome.    In  time he began praying to God, as he remembered his parents had taught him.  One day he was able to  escape and  return by ship to his parents.

             After a happy reunion, Patrick realized  that God was calling him to return to the country to which  he had been kidnapped and teach them about the love of God and the gift of his son, Jesus.   Patrick attended seminary then went to Ireland.  

       Many people “party hearty” every year on his birthday on March 17th but few think about what he really did. . .returned to those who held him captive and told them and others about the love of God.  He is named Saint Patrick for good reason.

    We can decide to try that our self . . . love those who hurt us or use us.  Amazing  how it helps us recover from anger and resentment. . the real truth is that when we withhold forgiveness from others, it breeds bitterness in us , not them. The best thing you can do right now is stop and think of every person that has ever abused, accused or used you in any way, and make a point to forgive them now- if not possible in person say it out loud and release yourself from your own chains.

.. . forgiving restores joy in our heart.  How wonderful we have St. Patrick as a successful role model.

                                                       

Hope Delayed….

       

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Delay is not denial–  Probably every child realizes that they rarely receive everything

they want and hardly ever get what they really want the first time  they ask for it.

In fact usually they don’t. So they begin building a case to convince a parent how much

they need this new scooter or American Girl Doll.

 

They may even “resort to desperate measures” to demonstrate how urgent their

“need” is.   Sometimes it works but sometimes not. …

 

Extenuating circumstances complicate this process. . .if a birthday is coming soon,

the chances of getting what they want increases significantly.  However, if the

holidays have come and gone and our birthday is six months away,  we become more

intentional about finding a way to get what we want.  Or. there may be times when

we  give up on something and “throw in the towel”.

Continue reading “Hope Delayed….”

“The Playground of the Mind !”

 

Part of  preparing for being “snowed in” when my family and I lived up in

the North Woods of Wisconsin included a visit to the public library.   We

all stocked up on books, including three-year old Timmy’s favorite, “Mop Top,”

and ten-year-old Pammy’s favorite, “Little House on the Prairie.

Two books I selected were “Beyond Ourselves” by inspirational author, Catherine

Marshall, and “Psycho Cybernetics,” by surgeon Maxwell Maltz.  Both were so good

I didn’t mind a bit when we were snowed in.  A crackling fire in t our

heatilator fireplace, a cup of hot chocolate and the sight of snow falling out the

window set the right mood for my mind-boggling books.

Plastic Surgeon Maxwell Maltz made strong and memorable points . . . these two

quotes can influence many of us as we achieve our goal of holding on to hope.

 “This is where you will  win the battle –in the playground of the mind.”

  •    “Accept yourself as you are!  Otherwise, you will never see opportunity. You will not feel free to move toward it;  you will feel you are not deserving.”

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For years after reading this book, its various strong points crossed my mind.

The other book I read that winter had an equally powerful impact on me.

Author Catherine Marshall became a widow suddenly, when her

husband, Peter,  died of  heart attack.  Writing her first book,  A Man

Called Peter, which later became a motion picture, helped restore her hope.

Then she  began an intense study of  spiritual renewal and wrote the book

Beyond Ourselves.

I am sharing these two books because in the years to come they helped

me get through very difficult times.

Sometimes reading and embracing inspirational material makes the difference in our

ability to hold on to hope…it works for me, and I hope it does for you too!

DM

Say Yes To Hope..

It is never easy to climb out of the depths of despair…especially when one begins to wonder what they have to live for. . .a defining moment in time which can make the difference between life or death.  How one focuses their mind and emotions at a time     like this is of utmost importance.

Restoring one’s own hope is not easy but it is possible…with the right tools and know-how.  Training one’s brain to believe in hope can make all the difference.  When a person’s emotions are taking over,  this is the time to allow the brain to clarify that no matter how one feels, emotions are not always trustworthy.  When the brain is in gear, the real truth of the situation can be recognized.  Then hope can arise and take charge!.

Our brain doesn’t depend on our feelings to see things clearly.  But our emotions can be   so distorted by hurt feelings and negative self images that it is easy to allow feelings to dictate important decisions.  Things that torment us today may not be affecting us a year from now.  But when we make dumb decisions, many others may be hurt.

Sometimes quick decisions can cause life long pain.  Depend on our brain and not our emotions. . . yes, easier said than done but possible!

Give yourself a test case…..think of something simple to begin to train your brain!  An example that comes to my mind is about swimming laps in the nearby community pool.  On a warm, sunny day I can’t wait to walk to the pool and jump in.  But on a chilly grey day it is easier to decide to “skip it.”  Sometimes I allow my feeling that it too dreary a day to persuade me to stay home.  But when I make the decision to get up and go, I always get a great feeling of accomplishment…and it is usually just a bit easier the next time.

Put your brain to work and come up with a little “test case” of your own.  Let your emotions know your brain is in charge.  Try it….you might like it!

Hope we can connect again, soon.    D.M.