“The Playground of the Mind!”

Heres Your Hope

Part of  preparing for being “snowed in” when my family and I lived up in

the North Woods of Wisconsin included a visit to the public library.   We

all stocked up on books, including three-year old Timmy’s favorite, “MopTop,”

and ten-year-old Pammy’s favorite, “LittleHouseonthePrairie.

Two books I selected were “BeyondOurselves” by inspirational author, Catherine

Marshall, and “PsychoCybernetics,” by surgeon Maxwell Maltz.  Both were so good

I didn’t mind a bit when we were snowed in.  A crackling fire in the our

heatilator fireplace, a cup of hot chocolate and the sight of snow falling out the

window set the right mood for my mind-boggling books.

Plastic Surgeon Maxwell Maltz made strong and memorable points . . . these two

quotes can influence many of us as we achieve our goal of holding on to hope.

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Taking my own advice!

 

Staying optimistic can be a full-time job.   Deliberately focusing on the positive

doesn’t come naturally.  Sometimes we don’t even realize we are taking

two steps forward and then slipping back  a step or two.  Guess we actually need to

stop and pay attention to what is going on in the back of our mind and what we are thinking.’

What you say is what you get.”  There is some truth in that premise even

though it isn’t always so. Every word begins with a thought.

When one says, ”I  just know this is gonna be a terrible day.” probably it will be.

Of course,  there may be times similar to “Alexander and the Terrible. Horrible. No Good, Very

Bad Day.”   I delayed reading that children’s book by Judith Viorst,  because of its negative title.

But eventually found it a slice of a kid’s real life.  Most kids laugh  and glad to know that others

have difficult days. too.

Maintaining one’s optimistic attitude is worth the effort and is time well spent.

Especially when we get the ‘hang of it’.  But it takes bit of intentional discipline.

Go ahead, give it your best shot . . . it will be well worth the effort.

D.M.

Are you happy. . . or contented? Or still seeking?

What makes you happy?  Is it a momentary feeling or a state of mind?

Some experts describe happiness as a decision, while others say  it is well-worth

a determined search, no matter how long it takes.

“I have decided to be content in every situation”.  This takes concentration

and deliberation.   And it wasn’t my idea, it originated with someone who

suffered a lot, including surviving a shipwreck and enduring unfair

beatings.  But it works!

Yes, it takes a lot of practice and beginning again and again.  In time, it even

gets a little easier.

The best part is, happiness frequently drops in and real joy overcomes us.

DM

Time Well Spent?

   As a writer, the older I get, an awareness of limited years to “put in writing”

all those “things” that lurk in my brain, labeled “do before I die” lingers.

Yet, at times, a sense of urgency seems to “paralyze” my creativity.

     Oh, I make lists, of course.  And often even do exactly what they say to do.

But, sometimes I get bogged down revising the lists.   Those are the times I am

frustrated because not enough gets done and another day of my life has ended.

     I do not believe in neglecting a bit of fun in my life.  When weather permits,

swimming laps exhilarates me and then I unwind by reading in the sun.  Yes,

these activities do give me a pleasant feeling of wellbeing.  Attending  a small,

home-based Bible Study is a highlight of my week.

     Many people seem to be able to “retire,”  relax and enjoy life, yet make time to

do meaningful volunteer work.  Now that I think about it, volunteering for

a variety of projects has been very meaningful for all of my adult life.

   For the last seven years,  I have enjoyed leading a talented group  of  writers,

(The Writers of Sica Hall), once a week as a volunteer.

  “Today is the first day of the rest of your life!”   Years ago, that was a popular poster.   It

seems to have become my motto again.   Well,. enough said.  Lists are waiting to be

rewritten.  This is the week I intend to accomplish a lot.

    However, looking back, I now realize how meaningful it has been to volunteer for many

groups, especially years with youth ministry in my church. Those hours will always be far

more important than any of my “to do” lists.

DM

 

 

My Epic of Anxiety

My home page, which I just wrote earlier this month, asks the question, “Is there light at the end of your tunnel?” A few days later, I read this blog. It is so powerful! He said he was not alone in the dark tunnel, as The Father of Lights was with him.

Mitch Teemley

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Conclusion: Life Beyond the Tunnel

(To read Part One, click here)

It would be nice, though less epic, if my story of anxiety had ended at year seven. It didn’t. But something had changed. I’d moved from trying to control my thoughts to trying not to control them; from fighting or fleeing the wave, to diving into it. The less I feared my thoughts, the more they became my own.

And the more God filled them.

The following year I titled my journal, “The Year of New Beginnings.” I wasn’t out of the tunnel, but the circle of light was growing—and the Father of Lights was in the tunnel with me.

I had a life. I’d been in a well-known comedy act and was starting another. I was touring, recording albums, shooting videos, and teaching. And yet…

I met with a therapist, but his “let’s talk about your parents”…

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The Morning After… Starting Over, Again!

Good point in here. We all know someone who seems to ” have it all” but is absolutely miserable…I don’t think naming names is the answer, but ( Leona Helmsly ) but its not difficult to make a U-turn in our perspective, and reset our brains each morning.
Good post.

Heres Your Hope

We all have experienced a depressing first thought upon awaking…. probably related to something bad or sad having recently  happened. In part this is due to our human nature and our being hyper-focused on what is wrongin our lives, which sets us up for failure every time. Try starting each day by naming 5 things you are very gratefulfor. Do your children have a terminal disease? If not, be very grateful because no amount of success or money can fix that..

Instead of wanting to bury our heads in our pillows and forget it all, open your day by reminding yourself of how very good you have it. If you live in America for example, you have it better then 90%  of the world. Not too shabby , huh?  No matter our situation, it can always be worse.

 Focusing our thoughts on the good things in our lives helps.  It puts things in perspective…

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The Morning After… Starting Over, Again!

We all have experienced a depressing first thought upon awaking…. probably related to something bad or sad having recently  happened. In part this is due to our human nature and our being hyper-focused on what is wrong in our lives, which sets us up for failure every time. Try starting each day by naming 5 things you are very grateful for. Do your children have a terminal disease? If not, be very grateful because no amount of success or money can fix that..

Instead of wanting to bury our heads in our pillows and forget it all, open your day by reminding yourself of how very good you have it. If you live in America for example, you have it better then 90%  of the world. Not too shabby , huh?  No matter our situation, it can always be worse.

 Focusing our thoughts on the good things in our lives helps.  It puts things in perspective from the get go each day.  One thing that also worked for me was to have a “fun”  event on my calendar.  Several times, years ago, it was necessary for me to move, with my three children, to a different apartment or house.  A lot of hard work and not enough help.  Since this usually happened in late summer, before school resumed, I found that if I planned a day at one of our favorite lakes or at our church camp,  just thinking about it got me through the heavy work.  How wonderful it felt to be able to relax after the move.

Let me be clear, I am not saying or thinking that a simple solution like a day at the beach can get us through the heavier times.  Yet, just planning a day now or then when our issues and problems can be shelved for a time can help.  One day at a time helps us survive, but there will always be tough times when we wake up on a sad note.

Make sure you beat that old human nature to the punch, and start each day being thankful the good things in your life!  That part is simply a matter of discipline, retraining our brains to think accurately. It will amaze you how much differently you will see your circumstances if you commit to doing this. It may take a month before it comes naturally..

It will be the best investment you can make in your life if you allow it to be.

DM